Feeling sexy doesn’t come easy for me. When I’m checking out Craig, my heart skips and it’s like we first met, but sometimes the internal dialog in my head (I feel HUGE, my fill-in-the-blank is sagging) can ruin the moment.
Recent studies confirm that more Americans than ever before are having problems between the sheets than ever before. Researchers use terms like “physical self-consciousness” and “body exposure avoidance during sexual relations,” which is code for less desire, enjoyment and action.
Below are some things I do, and you can too, to help reverse the negative self-talk to put some sizzle back into your sex life.
Many of us feel more bloated, flabby and droopy than smokin’-sexy-hot. Good sex is about what’s in your mind and feeling good in your own skin.
Exercise. I can’t get in the mood when I work all day and don’t take a break to go for a walk, run, swim, bike ride, hike, or x-fit session. Just do something! No matter if you only have 10 or 20 minutes, getting some activity has been shown in oodles of studies to improve your mental outlook, self-esteem and self-confidence. (I don’t know about you, but it takes self-confidence to get naked with someone!)
Ease off the Salt: Many people retain fluid from their high-sodium diets. Plus, its bad for our arteries. Cut back on processed foods and try using natural herbs, spices, lemon zest, and other sodium-free flavor enhancers. It only takes a couple weeks to retrain our taste buds to enjoy less salty foods.
Eat Well: I am not talking about in-the-mood foods or aphrodisiacs, but I eat lighter when I want to feel my best. I don’t know why this works, but universally, I find that most women feel if they eat lots of fruits, veggies and drink plenty of water, they feel good about themselves–and their body–and this translates into you know what.
If you want to improve your overall sex life and have healthier sex, focus on your diet and exercise patterns. Research shows that being overweight or obese or having a poor body image reduces the amount of sex we have and sexual satisfaction. A diet that’s best for sex is one that is best for your heart because sex is all about having good plumbing and good plumbing comes with clear arteries.
These principles that are good for our (women’s) sexual health are even more important for men. In fact, men who are overweight or have increased belly fat have several times the risk for ED compared to men who are leaner.
The diet guidelines below are proven strategies to improve your heart’s health and reduce abdominal fat, the type that wreaks havoc on your sexual health. And the sexy foods at the bottom are backed up by research that you can read about in another article of mine.